Father’s Day
Jun 19
The one thing that troubles me about my illness is that who will teach my daughter the lessons that I have learned over the years? Someone suggested that I write letters to her which she can read later in her life. I tried writing but couldn’t go further than writing ‘dear’. It was just hard for me to write because it made me realize that she will grow up without me and I couldn’t comprehend what she might be going through when she reads them. Nevertheless I still want my experiences to be there for her when she needs. This article on CNN might just be the answer. What do you think? Is ‘Dad Council’ something that could work for me? Trust me it is very hard to digest the fact that I might not be around when my daughter needs me the most.
Nishant, I think writing letters to her is a fantastic idea. For me at least, writing in my journal really helped me get past some hard times in my life and having her read what you would want to say is in my opinion, essential. Maybe write a series of very detailed letters and seal each one in an envelope for her to read over a long period of time? Like say, one or two letters a year: she opens one on her birthday and another on yours? However you do it, I think that idea is great-and i’m sure you’ll think of something if you try hard enough
First of all this is definitely not the Nishant whom I had talked to. You were never so negative and you gave me the little bit of hope that I needed.
I think if its difficult to write then y not record videos/audios…small clips whenever you are in a good mood and upload/save them.
Instead of writing letters, I started maintaining a digital scrapbook for her. It included photos, videos and my daily journal. But because of my diminishing motor skills, I have not been able to keep it updated and I still have so many things to log.
When I saw that news piece on CNN, I did think of your case. Keeping some log for Anika seems like a really good idea. As she grows up, these logs will help her know you better.
Btw are you planning to take part in the Atlanta trial that you had posted on fb about?
It is always good to write for your kids. I feel kids love to receive letters even when their dads/moms are travelling. Don’t think that you won’t be around, just write in general experiences which you feel she should know and motivate her.